Narcissism 101

We all have some narcissistic traits, whether it be entitlement, a superiority complex, arrogance, or a lack of empathy.  However, some people exhibit these traits in excess, often at the expense of others.  These individuals may have narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD.  

 

Many people with NPD are undiagnosed; experts estimate that roughly 15 to 20% of the population may have NPD, but only 1% of the population is diagnosed.  Narcissism can be extremely damaging to relationships, families, and individuals, making it important to recognize the signs and have a plan of action.

 

Common tactics for narcissists include gaslighting, triangulation, playing the victim, and taking credit for your effort.  If you notice these signs in someone close to you, you might want to consider separating yourself from that person. 

 

There are specific steps that you can take to disengage and distance yourself from a narcissist safely.  First, you should develop a plan.  Make arrangements for your safety by moving or saving money in a separate account, printing copies of important documents, and creating new contact information.  You can also reach out to a family lawyer, who can provide support if you need to file for a divorce or work out child support. 

 

Throughout this process, it is important to move slowly.  Going too fast can alert the narcissist to your intentions and place you in an unsafe situation.  Moving slowly also gives you time to collect evidence. 

 

When the time comes for the separation, make sure that your family and friends know your plan.  If you want extra backup, you can call the authorities, who can escort you as you leave the house.  Following the separation, keep an eye out for dangerous stalking behavior. 

 

Narcissism is more prevalent than we may think, and it can cause lasting damage.  With this in mind, it is useful to know the signs of NPD.  If you find yourself in an unsafe situation, there are steps you can take to distance yourself from the narcissist.